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Episode 16: Setting Heart Centered Goals


In this episode, I walk you through setting heart centered goals using my own “Ten in Three” method. In short, you check in with your heart, listening for what you want to do over the next few years, and then you narrow down what you hear to ten things you want to do over the next three years.
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If you’re feeling like you want to tackle some new things in the coming year, I encourage you to try this Heart Centered Goals method. The benefit of this method is that you aren’t going to be tackling an enormous list of “resolutions,” instead you’ll be focused on working towards just three big things. It feels more like a choice, and less like a compromise. And, for that reason, I think you’ll find that your heart centered goals stick in a way that resolutions never do.

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About 18 months ago, I was looking to make a lot of changes in my life. I had just signed up for a program to become certified as a life coach, and there was something about that decision that made me feel like it was time to “put my house in order.”  I came up with this methodology, and it worked. Not to glorify the art of busy (far from it!),  in the last two years I’ve gotten married, gotten certified as a life coach, led 3 in person retreats and set up and led a 10 speaker online retreat, started a podcast, launched a business, worked full time, and had time for my five year old son and husband.

The thing at the heart of this is what I call the “Ten in Three.” It’s the ten things you want to do over the next three years. It works because it’s simple. It works because you start with your heart.

In this episode, I talk about:
– A different way to set goals, using a heart centered approach
– why the original “SMART” method for goal setting doesn’t work for everyone
– how different people have different temperaments
– that depending on your personality, you may do better holding yourself accountable (and totally resist having the traditional “accountability buddy”)
– my own way of setting and reaching goals
– why you should write your goals down
– why flexibility is important with goals
– how to set a narrow, defined list of goals over the next three years
– why fewer goals are better, even when (especially when) you want to accomplish a lot over a year

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Resources:
Ten in Three Worksheet that accompanies this episode
Gretchen Rubin’s Better Than Before: What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits–to Sleep More, Quit Sugar, Procrastinate Less, and Generally Build a Happier Life on Amazon
Gretchen Rubin on Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness
SMART methodology for setting goals
Kathleen Davies, Episode 1 of Jump Start Your Joy
Debbie Ford’s The Dark Side of the Light Chasers on Amazon
“Relaxing” music track by Bensound used during visualization exercise

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  • Heather Lawrence
    December 28, 2015 at 2:59 am

    I love the idea of ten in three. So often we try and squeeze everything we want to change into the first month of the new year and then NOTHING gets done. I’m going to have really think about this and see what my ten will be.

    • Paula
      December 31, 2015 at 8:18 am

      I’m working on an idea that is around the “non-resolutions” and it will be going up on my Instagram in the new year. It’s so true, if you try to cram a ton in, or make a million changes, it’s less likely for any of them to stick.

  • Claire
    December 28, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    This sounds like an interesting approach to setting goals – I’ve just been sitting writing my goals, thanks for giving me something more to think about x

  • Jannine
    January 2, 2016 at 5:17 am

    Interesting way of approaching goal setting, I totally agree that fewer goals are better. I tend to get overwhelmed or distracted when I have too many goals set at once.