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How to Stop “End Thinking” And Bring More Joy Into Your Life

I don’t know about you, but I often come up with an awesome, big idea, and then my brain churns it over and over and then “OMG this is going to take too much effort and what the heck am I thinking?” Something that started out small, and probably pretty easy, gradually gets huge and overblown, and my early excitement about it disappears.

Here’s a real life example. I have 13 rose bushes in my yard, and recently had the thought, “I’ll collect these pretty rose petals from the garden to put in a sachet for my dresser drawer” which became “I’ll sell millions of these on Etsy and corner the market on fresh petal gifts (and my house would smell totally awesome),” which then became “I don’t have enough rose bushes for that, it would take forever, and where would I get those cute mesh bags?!?” and then it turns into “there’s no use even trying, and I didn’t want that anyway. Boooo. Let’s go eat tortilla chips.*”How To Stop End Thinking and bring more joy into your life on Jump Start Your Joy

With clients, I’ve started calling this “end thinking.” It’s where you jump to the end conclusion, thegrand final outcome, and then, potentially overwhelmed by HOW to get there, fear or anxiety kicks in and you abandon that thing that started as a tender, usually simple, inspiration. And here’s the kicker – that first, tender thing that could bring us a lot of joy.

Fresh smelling drawers? The act of doing something nice just for myself? Yes!
The idea of taking on the fresh smelling drawers empire and wrestling it to the ground with only 13 rose bushes and no knowledge? No! I’ve already talked myself out of the idea, before I’ve even started.

Here’s what I suggest to my clients – what if that thing, the rose petal sachet in my own example, is just a rose petal sachet? It can be just one. It can be a 10 minute exercise in doing something sweet, just for yourself, just for the joy of it. Sure, it’s totally exciting to have big Etsy dreams, but there’s no sense in letting that rob me, or you, of what could be joyful, right now.

The trick here to to catch yourself, as you jump from the one small idea, to the next overwhelming idea.
Does bigger really equal “better?”
Is it really necessary to abandon the first idea, just because the “end thinking” takes it to a place that’s

What dream (small or big) has danced in your mind, one that could start super small and just be?

What joy can you find from letting it be the simplest version of itself?