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Episode 35: Lexi Koch and The Courage of Being Vulnerable


My friend Lexi Koch is an intuitive life transformation coach, and she knows a lot about the courage it takes to be vulnerable. We met in the Courageous Living Coach Certification, and I was super happy to have her on the show. After college, Lexi became a social worker, and then got more and more interested in being a farmer. She has co-founded a nonprofit gardening program for the local school district that helps introduce local children to the joys of farming.

Lexi Koch on the Courage of Being Vulnerable

After buying her own farm, becoming a yoga instructor, and building a house with her husband, Lexi had her son. Lexi shares the story here of how finding out, only 2.5 weeks after he was born that he had Cystic Fibrosis, changed her life.Β I’m really honored to have Lexi on to share about her life journey, and how it has led her to being a life coach. I know that you will be touched by her story, and motivated by her drive to help others on this Earth.

In this episode, Lexi and I talk about the following:
(4:25) Lexi tells us about her early sparks of joy riding horses
(5:50) Lexi’s path to become an intuitive transformative life coach and owning her own flower farm, including the path of being a social worker, to working on and managing a farm, and empowering young people
(7:30) the thriving non-profit farm that Lexi started to teach young people about farming
(8:30) how the beauty of nature inspired Lexi and kept her going
(9:50) How Lexi and I both connect with nature in times of transition
(11:00) the low lying, chronic angst that Lexi felt (even when she was doing so many things she loved), and the universe’s nudge to figure out what was “missing”
(11:30) how the birth of her son, who was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis, caused everything in Lexi’s life to shift.
(17:00) what holding on to the belief that things will get better meant for Lexi, and how it helped her change her build her “grit”
(19:00) Lexi’s reaction to her brother’s reassurance that “even if it’s (the diagnosis of Cystic Fibrosis) is positive, it’s going to be positive.”
(21:00) why it’s a human tendency to not accept support when faced with hard things
(24:00) how making ourselves vulnerable adds to our own “personal wellness account”
(26:00) the amazing nature of synchronicity and how it plays in to coaching (and Lexi’s clients)
(27:00) how getting in tune with her own body has given Lexi a great tool to be aware of, and tackle, things that come up in our lives (and what happens when we go towards discomfort in our lives). How the pain or discomfort within our bodies may be a gentle “love note” of something our body needs, but does not have the language to tell us about, in another way.
(31:00) what the emotions of burn out, overwhelm may be trying to tell us, or ask for when we feel them
(32:00) the mentality of having to prove oneself, or prove one’s worth, by DOing more, work harder, be focused, complete a list, versus being in tune with emotional needs and being vulnerable enough to share what they are
(34:00) Lexi talks about her interview series on women who “give give give,” which has shown her that women embody an internal code on how to deal with the stress and overwhelm of life (some ideas: journaling on a personal mission statement, dance parties, tapping / EFT)
(37:00) How to figure out what works for YOU when you’re trying to balance stress and overwhelm in your life (including two practices to try, now)
(43:00) The boundaries Lexi has set up in her own life to give her space to practice self care.
(45:00) How to get closer to your kids, and be more present with them
(49:00) What might surprise you about being a life coach, and doing that work
(51:00) The quiz on Lexi’s site that you can take to determine if your feeling of being overwhelmed is trying to tell you something
(54:00) Lexi’s ideas on how to bring you dream into action
(55:00) Lexi answers the question of how to jump start your joy.

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Lexi’s website.
Women who give, give, give series on Lexi’s site
Overwhelm quiz on Lexi’s site

Lexi Koch on the Courage of Being Vulnerable

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  • Robin Rue (@massholemommy)
    May 4, 2016 at 11:47 am

    Lexi sounds like such and amazing and inspirational woman. I can’t wait to hear the rest of your talk with her.

  • Julie
    May 4, 2016 at 11:59 am

    I love listening to peoples stories about creating their own businesses and path in life. And having a son with autism I love the quote from her brother about things still being positive after a diagnosis.

  • Terri Steffes
    May 4, 2016 at 1:29 pm

    What a great title! I bookmarked this for my trip tomorrow! Thank you!

    • Terri
      May 5, 2016 at 9:10 am

      Sooo, I listened to the broadcast on my trip. I too listened to someone giving me a major diagnosis. I can’t say how my husband may have heard it but maybe I have a bit more insight than I did before.

      • Paula
        May 5, 2016 at 1:32 pm

        Thank you, Terri – I’m so glad you got a chance to listen! I love your site πŸ™‚

      • Lexi
        May 6, 2016 at 5:21 pm

        Hi Terri,
        I’m curious what you mean by having more insight about what your husband experienced after the news of a diagnosis? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

  • Kait
    May 4, 2016 at 2:06 pm

    Her story reminds me a lot of my own. Establishing yourself can be the best and scariest thing ever. Another great listen πŸ™‚

  • Carolyn
    May 4, 2016 at 7:14 pm

    What an amazing woman. I think everyone could use a life coach at every stage in life.

    • Lexi
      May 6, 2016 at 5:22 pm

      So true, right!!?? Thanks for the listen and the love.

  • Blythe A.
    May 4, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Lexi sounds like such an inspiring woman. I think it is amazing that she is helping kids learn about growing your own food and eating healthier.

    • Lexi
      May 6, 2016 at 5:22 pm

      Thanks! It’s been a wondrous journey on so many levels.

  • Michelle @ Sunshine and Hurricanes.com
    May 4, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    This sounds like a great listen! It’s always inspiring to listen to stories of people who’ve risen beyond their circumstances and thrived!

  • Debra
    May 4, 2016 at 8:07 pm

    What an amazing woman! Bookmarking this to check it out later when I am looking for something to listen to!

  • Heather
    May 4, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    So very true. Being vulnerable is one of the hardest, yet liberating, things in the world. Sister to a man with Aspergers this gives me some perspective.

    • Paula
      May 4, 2016 at 11:05 pm

      Vulnerability is a true act of courage. Thank you for stopping by to listen, Heather πŸ™‚

    • Lexi
      May 6, 2016 at 5:23 pm

      So glad to hear this has given you some perspective. I’d love to hear more about that if you feel like sharing?

  • Amanda Love
    May 4, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    Lexi sounds like an amazing person and while I don’t have the time to listen to it all right now, I will have to listen to it. Would love to hear what she really has to tell us.

  • Bernadette Callahan
    May 4, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    Lexi sounds amazing and very inspirational, something we all need a little dose of every now and again.

  • Roxanne
    May 5, 2016 at 7:58 am

    Great episode from what I’ve heard so far! Can’t wait to listen to the rest of when the kids aren’t screeching for my attention. πŸ™‚ Lexi you are inspirational!

    • Lexi
      May 6, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      Thank you so much Roxanne for your love!

  • Cara (@StylishGeek)
    May 5, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    Thanks for sharing this podcast feature! I was actually looking for a new podcast to listen to while I work out and this sounds great! Will definitely tune in!

  • jill conyers
    May 5, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Vulnerability. I could talk for hours about my personal experience and growth and to learn even more. Accepting and even embracing vulnerability is a work in progress.

  • alexandria
    May 5, 2016 at 6:40 pm

    I love what that said about a love note about what our bodies need. She sounds like shes really come out on the other side! Inspirational post.

    • Eileen
      May 6, 2016 at 5:14 am

      Lexi is quite an inspirational woman. I admire all that she has accomplished. I also appreciate her thoughts that people don’t accept support during hard times. I have someone close to me in that position right now.

  • Susan Langer
    May 5, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    Very good interview and information about vulnerability. Thank you for sharing it.

  • Toughcookiemommy
    May 5, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    As a strong woman, I have always avoided exposing any type of vulnerability. Over the years, I have learned that it is okay to be vulnerable sometimes and to lean on others. Without doing so, you will overwhelm yourself with life as it goes on.

    • Lexi
      May 6, 2016 at 5:24 pm

      So true!

  • Heather
    May 6, 2016 at 6:45 am

    I love that she is teaching kids to have a love of the land – I am trying to do the same with my own children. And setting up boundaries in order to practice self-care, I have been doing that over the past couple of years, it isn’t easy!

  • Erin
    May 6, 2016 at 7:35 am

    Okay, first of all, I am so excited to find you! I’m a Creative Life Coach so I’m ecstatic to have found your blog and podcast. And I can’t wait to learn more about Lexi!

    • Paula
      May 6, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      Hi Erin, it’s so nice to meet you, too! I will check out your site. Thank you for stopping by.

  • Renee @ The Good Hearted Woman
    May 6, 2016 at 12:14 pm

    What an inspirational woman! Vulnerability is something I learned as a young writer – the closer you get to your own truth, the more people connect with you. I will bookmark this to listen to soon. Thank you.

    • Paula
      May 6, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      Thank you Renee, yes, I agree, there’s something that resonates deeply with people when we share parts of our hearts. I hope you enjoy the show! πŸ™‚

  • Lexi
    May 6, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Thanks to all of you for listening in and commenting. It’s a joy to share my story with each and every one of you.

  • Hannah Adkins
    May 7, 2016 at 7:53 am

    Lexi seems like a great guest! I also share her love of horses and riding horses. They are beautiful creatures, and I absolutely love them.

  • Rebecca Kelsey Sampson
    May 8, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    I love that you have timestamps, I don’t always like to listen to a whole podcast so it’s really helpful to pick which parts to deep dive in. So far it seems like a really inspirational moment, the summary made me almost teary eyed.

  • CourtneyLynne
    May 9, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    Ooo what a great episode!!!! Lexi sounds like such an inspirational person πŸ™‚