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How to Form Habits and Routines to Create More Joy in Your Life with Flylady Marla Cilley

It’s a true pleasure to have Flylady Marla Cilley back on the podcast for her third episode, this time to talk about how we can form habits and routines to create more joy in our lives. The last time I spoke with Marla, she shared about her work at, and we agreed to regroup closer to the end of my first season to talk about habits and routines. Whether you go back to listen to Episode 18 and 19 to catch up with the conversation, or not, I know you’re going to love this episode.

What I really like about Marla’s approach in her program (or ministry, as she calls it), is that she bases it on creating smaller habits, which put together, help to form and support routines that make doing daily tasks easier. She helps outline a new habit to work on each month on her site, and once you are through the whole year, you have a new set of routines for your day that will lead to more joy (because you’ll have taken care of the basics of taking care of yourself and your family and home). I really love the philosophy and cognitive therapy that is woven, very authentically, into her program. Marla and her humor, and her motto of “Find Joy in Everything that You Do” have had a profound effect on me, and I’m really honored to get to speak to her again.

In this episode, Flylady Marla Cilley and I talk about:

4:15 Marla talks about the mission and ministry of Flylady, which is helping women find meaning purpose out of chaos
6:00 Marla shares her personal motto: “To Find Joy in Everything I Do”
7:00 a fun way to clean floors with children, and why cleaning shouldn’t be used as a punishment
10:00 Marla explains how her program and “Finally Loving Yourself” works, and what to do if you think you don’t have time to do something
11:30 how to use regular tasks (like making coffee) to piggyback other habits and make them easier to remember and complete
12:00 Habits, and how they work
13:00 How “sidetracked” people tend to get caught up in perfectionism
14:45 turning ADHD into an asset instead of a liability
17:00 How building habits, one on top of another, help people from getting sidetracked
19:10 Marla’s before bed routine, and how she remembers each item
21:00 Perfectionism, and “Stinkin’ Thinkin'” – which takes its queues from Cognitive Therapy
23:00 How to approach big projects with a mentality of doing one thing at a time, and making it part of your daily work by going into “Project Mode”
27:00 Ways to make tasks go faster by making them fun (listening to books, playlists, music, podcasts)
28:30 The way rewards and celebrations fit into life
29:00 Why we don’t rest, and the story of the logger
34:00 How multi-tasking is ineffective
36:00 The Flylady way of purging a closet and de-cluttering your house(don’t start by pulling everything out of your closet, it’s overwhelming)
41:00 How to approach de-cluttering something, even if you are sentimentally attached to something (and want to get rid of it)
42:25 What to do with baby items, after your child is no longer a baby, while still letting the child be a part of the decision making process of what is kept, and what is donated
45:00 Other ideas on making keepsakes out of mementos
49:00 A fun way to help divide work around the house, or for setting up for a party (it’s like Bingo!)

Resources – Marla’s website
Episode 18: Flylady Marla Cilley on Finally Loving Yourself
Episode 19: Flylady Marla Cilley on “Finding Joy in Everything You Do”
Jerry Mills’ website: Singer and song writer (who wrote about having ADHD)
David Burns, The 10 Types of Stinkin’ Thinkin’
Marla is the author of “Body Clutter,” and “Sink Reflections,” both are best sellers, and ย I can not recommend them highly enough.
Sink Reflections – Marla’s first book (on Amazon)
Body Clutter – Marla’s second book (on Amazon)How to Form Habits and Routines to Create More Joy in Your Life with Flylady Marla Cilley

What kinds of habits or routines do you have to help you through your day?

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  • M. David Green
    July 13, 2016 at 1:16 am

    That trick of building habits on top of each other is gold. And it’s so easy to grasp the logic of it when you hear Marla explain her kitchen and bedtime routines in such a candid, honest way. Very inspiring episode!

    • Paula
      July 14, 2016 at 12:03 am

      Thank you M. David – yes, once she’s explained it, it seems so simple! I imagine she’d be super interesting on “Hack the Process” ๐Ÿ™‚

  • tp keane
    July 13, 2016 at 10:14 am

    What a great interview; this is the kind of thing that I’d love to attend a seminar about. Great content and so innovative.

  • karen
    July 13, 2016 at 10:26 am

    So important to take care of the basics first. That sets a good foundation to add more joy to without worrying about those little things!
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  • christina aliperti
    July 13, 2016 at 10:45 am

    I have been trying to find joy in my everyday routine. Why shouldn’t we feel joy in everything we do? I think if we all felt more joyful this world would change a lot for the better.

  • Heather Lawrence
    July 13, 2016 at 10:48 am

    We are in a season on transition and are changing out habits with how we eat and adding 30 minute of exercise in daily. We are stripping away what doesn’t make us happy and adding things that will draw us closer as a family and increase our joy. we have learned that taking care of ourselves first makes it so much easier to take care of others.

  • Terri Steffes
    July 13, 2016 at 11:34 am

    Finding joy in every day living is the theme of my blog. I need to do it better though, because I can say I am not living what I preach. Great post.

  • Terryn Winfield
    July 13, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    Amazing! I have been a huge FlyLady fan for probably 10 years! I love her routines!

  • Amanda Rivera
    July 13, 2016 at 4:53 pm

    You know what’s so funny and is so perfect at the same time? My aunt had this magnet on her refrigerator for the longest time and I always thought it was a really cute magnet! For whatever reason, I never googled the website and really looked into it. And here you are interviewing her! Googling and checking out her work now, the podcast between the two of you was really positive, upbeat, and inspiring ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Paula
      July 14, 2016 at 12:02 am

      Hi Amanda – that is really funny. I love her logo of the flying lady ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Cassandra @ Powered By BLING
    July 13, 2016 at 6:09 pm

    In general, I love the overall hustle and bustle of my every day life. I’m also a minimalist when it comes to “stuff”, so I am constantly purging, donating or giving away. My rule is if I haven’t used it in 3 months, I don’t need it.

    • Paula
      July 14, 2016 at 12:01 am

      I like your rule! I find it hard to purge things, especially when they have been my son’s.

  • Dawn McAlexander
    July 13, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    I think in order to find joy in everyday routines you have to be doing something that you really love. The tasks seem much less trivial if you love what you do.

  • Roxanne
    July 13, 2016 at 6:51 pm

    Can’t wait to listen to this one!! I love all the Fly lady tips! Awesome stuff!

  • Rachel
    July 13, 2016 at 8:06 pm

    I love find the joy in everyday things. I find that often the simplest things are the things that make us the happiest, too.

  • Cathy Mini
    July 13, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    This is a great podcast! I have definitely been trying to find joy in the every day things that happen. I’m working on being more positive.

    • Paula
      July 14, 2016 at 12:00 am

      Thank you, Cathy! Finding joy every day can help – best wishes!

  • Amanda Love
    July 13, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    Isn’t it amazing how inspiring people can be and what they can do to create an impact in our lives? She sounds like an admirable person and I love her motto as well. She’s very positive and she makes living easier for a lot of us!

  • Adam
    July 13, 2016 at 9:41 pm

    Two joyful ladies! This one’s a joy to listen to and really reminds us the important of why joy is an amazing foundation for life. Great message about turning ADHD into a gift instead of a challenge.

  • Debra
    July 14, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    I absolutely love that Motto! I am trying hard to find Joy in everything I do too and it makes life so much better!

  • Ana De- Jesus
    July 14, 2016 at 2:11 pm

    Her laugh is so funny and its true once you embrace a situation you definitely can be more productive and get past any obstacle. Great podcast as always.

  • Yvonne Sowell
    July 14, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Nice! This is very applicable to me, that I live with bipolar disorder and have to constantly check myself and make sure I live a joyful life with people i love. These are great!

  • HilLesha
    July 14, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    I love how she views ADHD as an asset instead of a liability. I have it as well. I no longer take medicine for it since I felt like it hindered me in many ways. It’s very challenging at times, but I mostly view it as a gift.

  • Stephan Spencer
    July 14, 2016 at 11:12 pm

    I hate lists too! I feel shackled by my insanely long to-do list. Chain your habits together and build on them. Love it! I’ve been using the Way of Life app on my iPhone to establish new habits. Now my Before Bed routine includes journaling (which I never used to do), prayer, and sharing 3 appreciations with my fiancรฉe. I’ll keep building on from there.

    I use the term “stinking thinking” all the time. Never knew it was from the 12 step program.

    • Paula
      July 15, 2016 at 10:25 pm

      Thank you Stephan; I had no idea of the origins of the term, either. I’ll have to check out “Way of Life.” It sounds very cool.

  • CourtneyLynne
    July 15, 2016 at 4:38 pm

    Oooooo love this!!!! finding joy is a must! Once you find joy everything else will come together ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reesa Lewandowski
    July 15, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    I am working on finding more joy in my life. I loved this episode! Looking forward to hearing more!

  • Malek
    July 16, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    Love this! Momentum is huge and building small habits that lead to bigger habits is an awesome way to create long lasting routines. Can’t agree more ๐Ÿ™‚
    Great stuff Paula!

  • Cara (@StylishGeek)
    July 20, 2016 at 9:25 am

    I was looking for another podcast to listen to while I do my chores and house work and you gave that to me! This appears to be very inspiring! Thanks for sharing!

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