Kelly Denithorne is an educator, transgender advocate, and the blogger behind “Unordinary Style.” Kelly started her blog in 2010, and began it as a place to explore with her love of style while she was exploring women’s fashion. Born as a male, Kelly tried on several different titles for herself, from transvestite, to cross dresser, and then to transgender non-binary. In the last year, Kelly has begun teaching in her middle school as a woman, and has started the process of transitioning.
The thing that I love about Kelly and our conversation is the humor and grace with which she shares her journey. In the last few months, she’s become an advocate for the transgender community, and had several speaking engagements where she gets to share her story, as well. I also have the unique experience of having gone to high school with Kelly, when she was known as Bob, and so it was a true joy to reconnect with her and learn about where her life has taken her.
The true inspiration that I see in Kelly is her dedication to being curious, and to “always be humble enough to learn.” As she and I spoke, it was clear that she is a powerful example of someone who is a lifelong educator, and learner. Inspired by another trans woman, Jessica Lynn, Kelly has started sharing her story so that other people can learn more about transgendered individuals, and to spread awareness.
In this episode, Kelly Denithorne and I talk about:
- Her earliest sparks of joy, hanging out with her sister
- Her experience of growing up as a male, and the confusion that she experienced around having unidentified gender variance
- Being a teacher, and transitioning from dressing as a male to dressing female this school year
- Seeking therapy with someone who specializes in gender variance
- The reactions of her students and parents to her presenting as a woman
- Her path to discovering her true self
- The role being a fashion blogger played in her journey
- Her inspiration in starting to take on speaking opportunities
- How to jumpstart your joy: learn to accept who you are and how you work with it, sharing your story, and always be humble enough to learn