balance coaching podcast Season 2

Ep55: The Courage of Being Imperfect with Lara Heacock and Stephanie Ducharme

It’s huge treat to have Lara Heacock and Stephanie Ducharme join me for this round table on the courage of being imperfect. The three of us are participating in the Courage in Action Telesummit, an 11 day interview series all about courage. All three of us as coaches, and attended the same coach training, too, so there’s a lot of synergy, fun, and laughter going on with this episode.Does perfectionism get in your way of feeling like you're living as your true self? Three life coaches share about how they face perfectionism, and what courage looks like in real people's lives in this interview. Pin to save, or click to listen.

Stephanie and Lara both share some deep seated wisdom about courage, how it’s tied to vulnerability, and what it looks like to drop the mask of perfectionism, all in the name love (and loving yourself). I think you will really love the depth of this conversation about the courage of being imperfect; I was stopped in my tracks twice by the insights they shared, and so be sure and tune in to the very end so you catch them both 🙂

Here’s what we talked about:
4:15 Lara and Stephanie’s earliest sparks of joy – Lara as an extroverted, laughing girl, and Stephanie as a quiet, introverted child who enjoyed the outdoors
6:30 What Stephanie and Lara do, now. Stephanie is a multi-passionate, entrepreneur (a confidence coach for equestrians and athletes, riding instructor, farm owner, and landscape business owner) who in her spare time likes to make art. Stephanie connects with her parents through art and creativity.
7:30 Lara is an executive life coach working with people on the topics of balance and confidence, with self-kindness.
9:00 Paula loses connection, but in the spirit of imperfection, continues the interview from a cell phone line.
10:00 Lara explains how she created the “Courage in Action” Telesummit, which is now in it’s second year (including juicy gossip.), and how there are 12 hosts, and 22 different interviews (including 12 special guests), all talking about what courage looks like in their life.
13:00 Small acts are often some of the most courageous – realizing we are being courageous even when we don’t feel it.
14:20 What is the courage around being imperfect and embracing our imperfections? Where has perfectionism come up in your life?
15:00 Lara talks about how and where perfectionism has come up for her.
17:00 The mask of “Facebook living” and hiding behind perfectionism
19:00 Stephanie talks about how people pleasing comes into play with perfectionism
22:00 Fear is at the heart of perfectionism
25:00 Love as the anecdote to perfectionism and people pleasing.
28:00 How to begin practicing vulnerability
29:00 The way that vulnerability invites others to be vulnerable, and is a show of self-compassion
31:00 If loving oneself seems too difficult, start with compassion or kindness
34:00 how to sit with discomfort when it comes up, and how courage has various definitions for different people
36:00 Developing a self kindness practice (and why it can be life changing)
37:00 What becomes possible when we have the courage to be imperfect? How do we face the courage of being imperfect?
40:30 Scruffy entertaining – when people drop the mask and have guests over, no matter the state of their house
42:00 What balance looks like for Lara – boundaries and self kindness, and what overwhelm tells her
43:00 Stephanie talks about balance – giving herself the same grace and the same space she gives her clients
45:30 Stephanie & Lara’s thoughts on jump starting joy in your life


10 ways to jumpstart joy in your life - from 3 life coaches. Does perfectionism get in your way of feeling like you're living as your true self? This interview share about how to face perfectionism, and what courage looks like in real people's lives. Pin to save, or click to listen. www.jumpstartyourjoy.comResources:
Courage In Action Telesummit – sign up to get all 11 days in your inbox
Lara Heacock’s site: Kind over Matter
Stephanie Ducharme’s site:
Courageous Living Coaching Certification Program – where the three of us met
Scruffy Entertaining / Scruffy Hospitality

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    September 14, 2016 at 6:30 am

    Love the post and the focus on showing the world how you truly are. We are starting to entertain like this more and more.

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    katriza luna
    September 14, 2016 at 9:36 am

    This is a great post because it’s truly ok to be imperfect and actually in doing so, we learn something about ourselves!

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    September 14, 2016 at 4:03 pm

    Man – I must make about a million imperect (see what I did there? wink) mistakes a day! Embrace it – and that is what is normal. 🙂

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    Cynthia @craftoflaughter
    September 14, 2016 at 8:00 pm

    What a great post and interview. We should never be afraid to embrace our imperfections!

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    Eileen Kelly
    September 15, 2016 at 12:15 am

    I love this post! I enjoy the truth you all give to let us know who you are.We are certainly not perfect and this is exactly the point I am trying to instill in my middle school daughter

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    September 15, 2016 at 1:15 am

    What a great interview. We all make mistakes and we shouldn’t be afraid to embrace it and take it as a learning experience.

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    September 15, 2016 at 5:39 am

    It has taken me some time, but I’m finally in a place where I am ok with mine (and others) imperfections. It is so important to embrace ourselves as we really are.

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    Julie @ Girl on the Move
    September 15, 2016 at 7:43 am

    It’s scary to show others that you are imperfect and yet when you are vulnerable I’ve often built my deepest relationships because of that vulnerability

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    Amanda Love
    September 15, 2016 at 8:36 am

    I used to have an issue with perfection or being perfect. Often times, I would find myself striving for perfection even if it’s not possible and I realized how toxic it can get. Instead of becoming better, you end up failing more. It took me a while to realize that our imperfections should be embraced, it’s what makes us who we are and that’s beautiful.

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    Nicole Escat
    September 15, 2016 at 11:14 am

    Oh, this is a very nice read. I was once a perfectionist and I hate it!

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    September 15, 2016 at 12:44 pm

    I love this! This is they first year I feel like I’ve actually been ok not being perfect. It took so much more work and stress to try to attain perfection. It’s not worth it and it’s not possible! I’d choose my imperfect life any day.

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    September 15, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    What a great episode. I use to obsess over perfection until one day I finally realized o was chasing something that doesn’t exist!

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    Whitney S.
    September 15, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    I think we have all experienced imperfection in our lives. I think it is just important to embrace, because no one can be perfect and we will just be disappointed if we keep chasing this idea of perfectionism!

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    Rachel Catherine
    September 16, 2016 at 9:58 am

    I’m learning to get better about embracing my imperfections. I try to be a perfectionist so it’s hard for me.

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    Christina Aliperti
    September 16, 2016 at 1:06 pm

    I love this. We all need to stop chasing perfection and just be our imperfect selves. The only thing you can be perfectly is imperfect!

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    September 16, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    What a wonderful post and interview! It’s important to embrace our imperfections and love them for what they do, make us human!

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    September 16, 2016 at 6:55 pm

    I need to jump start my mornings with some joy. Right now it’s cofee that gets me going. Haha!

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    Krystle Cook
    September 25, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    I am in love with this post! Embracing some imperfection is quite alright. You don’t always have to be on your “A” game.

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