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Flylady Marla Cilley on Finally Loving Yourself

Flylady Marla Cilley, founder of, is a true inspiration. I found her site over ten years ago, as I was going through a divorce and knew I needed to find a way to take care of myself and my home.  I had started the search, thinking that I simply needed to find ways to clean and declutter, and to get my life back on track. What I found was Marla’s loving wisdom, her “Flying lessons,” her support, a lot of humor, a fun community, and a renewed sense of who I was. For this, I’m grateful.

Marla Cilley, the Flylady, on Finally Loving Yourself on Jump Start Your Joy

I’m so honored to have Marla as a guest for today’s episode as part of the “Loving your 2016” series. It was a true joy to speak with her, and to spend time soaking up her love and joy-filled philosophy. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the state of your home, or you’ve made organizing your life a priority for this year, I encourage you to listen, and to visit for more resources. She offers all of this for free – and you are in for such a treat.

In this episode, Flylady Marla Cilley and I talk about:

– how Marla arrived at her current zone cleaning process, including the overwhelming amount of cards and lists that she started with, trying to “perfect” an organization process
– shining your sink, what it is, and how that changed Marla’s life
– that two resolutions that started everything
– Marla’s take on the word perfect (and how she corrects me when I use it!)
– the food addiction, and why foods evoke memories and provide an endorphin rush. (along with why Mac n Cheese was Marla’s go to food when she got stressed, and why I run for peanut butter and chocolate).
– an easier way to clean your bathtub
– a great way to keep bathtub toys stored, and Flylady’s first viral post on facebook
– making cleaning fun
– why having a wall calendar is important for organization and teaching our children
– why Marla calls “jobs” or chores “blessings”
– why it’s important to release things that don’t bring you joy
– the power and importance of complimenting other people – Marla’s website
Marla is the author of “Body Clutter,” and “Sink Reflections,” both are best sellers, and  I can not recommend them highly enough.
Sink Reflections – Marla’s first book (on Amazon)
Body Clutter – Marla’s second book (on Amazon)
Eric Dodge, Why Not Today (on Amazon)
Pam Young and Peggy Jones card file system (Side Tracked Home Executives) on Amazon

any day can be new years day by Flylady Marla Cilley

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  • Ana De- Jesus
    January 6, 2016 at 7:36 am

    What a great ethos I need to learn how to love myself and not take who I am for granted. It is important that we practice self-love

  • Robin Rue (@massholemommy)
    January 6, 2016 at 12:20 pm

    She sounds like a very wise lady. I think it’s hard for a lot of people to love themselves, but it’s SO important.

  • Yanique
    January 6, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    I love her approach to organization and her philosophy on self-love. I can’t wait to check out some of her work!

  • Roxanne
    January 6, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    Love the Fly Lady!! Mommies in my social circle quote her all the time, or refer to her methods!! lol Awesome!

    • Paula
      January 7, 2016 at 7:38 am

      I love her, too! She definitely brings a positive, loving, and encouraging angle to keeping organized and loving yourself. 🙂

  • Di
    January 6, 2016 at 7:40 pm

    Oh my goodness! I love flylady! I admit I don’t fly as smoothly as I’d like but definitely incorporate some of her methods in the household chores etc!

    • Paula
      January 7, 2016 at 8:40 am

      I love that about her process – that you can jump in wherever you are and get started, and that there’s no wrong way to Fly. <3

  • Jenn
    January 6, 2016 at 8:36 pm

    I tried the FlyLady system several years ago. While I found some things very useful (the tub cleaning, shine your sink, etc.) it wasn’t a good overall fit for me, but I know it helps a lot of people. Through her I found Leanne Ely of Saving Dinner and used the Menu Mailer for several years.

  • Kaylene
    January 6, 2016 at 9:27 pm

    I love FlyLady! I found it one night when I was desperately googling “how to take care of my house”. I became a mom and wife at 16 and was LOST when it came to keeping a home running, and her site helped me so much!

  • nicole
    January 7, 2016 at 1:17 am

    Oh! wow this is so interesting. I decided that NYE was going to be my day and 2016 my year! I decided to change my life. I;m eating healthier and Friday makes seven days.

    • Paula
      January 7, 2016 at 8:39 am

      Congrats on 7 days of healthier eating! That’s great 🙂

  • Debra
    January 7, 2016 at 2:15 am

    I love the flylady! I no longer use her system, but she set me on the path to be able to do the system I do now.

  • Beth@FrugalFroggie
    January 7, 2016 at 4:06 am

    I haven’t heard of flylady but it sounds like I need to check her out.

  • laura londergan
    January 7, 2016 at 4:29 am

    I have heard of her & her systems from a friend years ago but never tried or looked into it. However I could use all the help I can get right now. 😉

  • Nikka Shae
    January 7, 2016 at 4:34 am

    What a great system!!! Good training!! I’m going to look more into this.

    • Paula
      January 7, 2016 at 7:37 am

      Thank you, Nikka – I hope you enjoy the Flylady site as much as I do!

  • Jannine
    January 7, 2016 at 5:00 am

    I had never heard of her, but she sure sounds like she has some great methods to incorporate!

  • Natalia
    January 7, 2016 at 6:59 am

    It really is important to love yourself, not enough people seem to.

  • LauraOinAK
    January 7, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    What an awesome podcast. I remember when Marla launched FlyLady. She’s certainly helped a LOT of people banish clutter from their homes so they can enjoy lives.

    With 4 boys at home and the tendency to hold onto things ‘just in case’, I cycle through clutter and calm. This time of year is declutter season.

  • Erin
    January 7, 2016 at 3:22 pm

    I love the FlyLady! I used to follow her routines religiously. Thanks so much for sharing this!

  • Bri
    January 7, 2016 at 6:32 pm

    I’ve never heard of this podcast! I like to listen to them in the car, I will need to check it out!

  • jill conyers
    January 7, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Jumpstart Your Joy is an irresistible name! I remember when FlyLady she’s helped so many people.

  • Kelly B.
    January 8, 2016 at 12:16 am

    Wow, it sounds like she has a lot of life knowledge to share! I love that she’s not only talking about the big things, but the small things in life, too!

  • MyTeenGuide
    January 8, 2016 at 1:55 am

    I haven’t heard of her, but she sounds like a very nice lady. I will look more into this.

  • Heather
    January 8, 2016 at 3:47 pm

    I could definitely use this in my life – I have heard so many great things about FlyLady. I really need to come up with some sort of cleaning/organizational routine. Can’t wait to listen to the podcast!

  • karissa
    January 11, 2016 at 2:45 am

    What a great approach to cleaning and organization.

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  • Pam
    January 22, 2016 at 12:52 am

    I love that quote you shared! It’s so hard to remember that any day can be a new start – it doesn’t have to be a new year or a special day. You make it special. It’s all about choosing. Thanks for sharing – I can’t wait to check out her website. I’ve heard good things about it before!

  • Koninika
    January 29, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    Wonderful podcast! Thank you for sharing that. Looking forward to following your blog.